When one is trying to conceive and it takes longer than expected, suddenly the world can seem like it’s full of bumps, babies and other people’s pregnancy announcements. Dealing with other people’s pregnancy announcements is hard enough. Even if one may genuinely celebrate another person’s pregnancy, it can also remind them of their own desire to become a parent and difficulties while conceiving, says Dr Sonali Mandal Bandhyopadhyay, Fertility Specialist, Birla Fertility & IVF, Howrah. Managing these conflicting emotions is an important aspect of psychological wellbeing during fertility treatment.
Acknowledge your emotions without guilt
Happiness, jealousy and disappointment can exist simultaneously. Suppressing these feelings or forcing an immediate positive reaction may increase emotional pressure.
Allowing time to process the news can help individuals respond when they feel comfortable. There is no obligation to immediately participate in pregnancy-related celebrations.
Communicate honestly and establish boundaries
A simple conversation can communicate genuine happiness for them while acknowledging personal difficulties. Temporarily limiting pregnancy-related social media content, declining certain invitations or stepping away from uncomfortable discussions can also help manage emotional strain.
Seek support when needed
Talking to a partner, trusted friend or someone with similar fertility experiences can provide reassurance. Support groups can offer opportunities to share experiences without judgement.
If sadness or anxiety begins affecting sleep, relationships or daily activities, fertility counselling may help develop healthier coping strategies.
Pregnancy announcements may remain emotionally difficult throughout treatment. Learning to recognise personal feelings, communicate boundaries and seek support can help individuals maintain meaningful relationships while protecting their emotional wellbeing.